Looking beyond the everyday

Sometimes it is good to be present and in the 'now'. However, sometimes we need to look further afield. Especially if we need hope. People can get 'stuck'. What they say in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, 'fused'. Where we focus solely on just one way of thinking and seeing and not beyond and so become blue and sad because it 'seems' they have no hope. No way of seeing the future or even attaining what they want in the future.

The Everyday is the day to day hum drum. Our routine that we can stay stuck in. What identifies is so much more but at times we can't always see it. Sometimes it seems insurmountable to get to get to it. Then in therapy perceptions and points of view change. They see how things are possible and that all it takes is to change the way they see things.

I am aware that it is not always as simple as that, but its part of the process. Sometimes we can only take baby steps but still this is still progress, nonetheless. Never give up. Always know that with some effort you can create the change you need. Thats what we do in the counselling process.

People who feel alone with the troubles often can't see a way out. They can't imagine being able to get out of what they are in. What has trapped them. They feel it is locked in and beyond hope. It is the everyday.

If you feel like this, then start by writing ideas down. Create a vision board. Journal. Pick up the phone and speak to a likeminded soul. Make journal entries verbally into your voice memo app on your smart phone if you have one.

Ultimately you need to know that there is more to discover beyond the everyday. What are your dreams? What do you aspire to? What is attainable right now that will take you in that direction? Never give up on that dream. There is so much more to you than hum drum routine. Make it happen. Not negotiable. Small steps that lead to bigger ones.

Dreaming about it, visualising it, is a start. However, stay in the now and in reality. If you are in a low mood, see a doctor and a counsellor or psychologist and then work towards putting your needs first and rising up. Have only people around you who are good for you. Avoid those who aren't. Lift your eyes to what you dream to be. Let others hold you while you climb that hill.

Take care. You are special.

Lisa