Why it’s okay to argue

Well, this is an interesting topic. We, as people, are only human. We need to interact with other people and convey our emotions. We are multilayered and unique and our needs are important. We need to interact and express ourselves and sometimes in more ways than one. We can't be chirpy all the time and sometimes we get angry. Its not good to suppress anger and frustration.

This does not mean you take it out on everyone. However, if you are married or in another type of relationship (eg. brother - sister, parent - adult child etc.) and usually interact rationally but one day you feel boundaries have been disrespected you then need to assert yourself. This may lead to an argument.

Now arguments can clear the air. If we have good communication skills we can avert really bad and heavy feelings after an argument. An argument can reset things. What I mean is its a culmination of emotions that erupt and then settle. We have release and we send a message to the other party about our boundaries.

Arguments should only be now and then. If they are happening constantly and leading to low moods or resentment then counselling is key in mediation and assisting with communication skills and styles. This is where I come in. I can listen and witness your pain. I can reflect back what I am hearing to validate or to explain. Then I help you find solutions. Please feel free to contact me to see if I can help. If in need of urgent help contact Lifeline 13 11 14.